You really need a meditation teacher.
When learning how to meditate, being teacherless is like wandering the desert blindfolded.
Death will overcome you before you find the well of refreshing water.
A good teacher will guide you straight to the Spiritual fountain inside you.
He can cut lifetimes off of your Spiritual growth process.
He may even be able to get you to the final goal now –in this very lifetime.
The Student—Teacher Relationship
My students hate me.
My students love me.
Some demand refunds.
Some pledge to send me money for the rest of their lives.
When all goes well, I’m a hero or a God.
When the inevitable difficulties come, all is my fault.
Sometimes they treat me like their father. Sometimes like a lover. Sometimes like a brother. Sometimes, I’m their worst enemy. Sometimes, I’m their best friend.
Throughout all the drama, my job is to remain calmly focused in Divine love –to be a loving, constant lode stone for the painful gyrations their minds and emotions undergo as they transform their lives into Divine beauty.
The relationship of meditation student to teacher is intimate in the extreme. Nothing is left unrevealed as the layers of samskaras are peeled away to reveal the shining luminosity of the naked Soul.
Its beauty is beyond description.
The path to it is not easy.
You need a teacher you can trust.
You’re entrusting your teacher with the most precious part of you.
Your eternal existence.
What to Look for in Your Teacher
The first, most obvious requirement is that your teacher MUST be realized. If he doesn’t have it, he can’t give it.
Secondly, try to match your own abilities to your teacher’s. If you’re into fast track energy meditation, you may get pretty bored with Vipassana. On the other hand, if you can’t feel and see energy, Vipassana may be just the thing for you.
The third requirement is that there must be some chord, or bond, between teacher and student. If the teacher resonates well with you, and you feel drawn to and comfortable with your teacher, the relationship has a good chance of success.
The fourth necessity is that your teacher must be accessible. The teacher doesn’t do you much good if he lives behind high walls and locked gates. There isn’t any substitute for a personal relationship –someone you can talk to in real time, ask questions of and get answers from that address your specific issues.
What NOT to Look For When Choosing Your Teacher
Luang Paw Kai loved me more than any other teacher I’ve ever had. He’s no longer in a physical body, but his Spirit has stayed with me wherever I’ve gone, through thick and thin, always guiding me with the same boundless love he displayed in life.
The Thai villagers visiting him in his humble, ramshackle, wooden Buddhist Temple actually got down on their bellies and crawled into his revered presence. Their immense respect for him was grown by his amazing love for them.
Before becoming a Buddhist monk, Luang Paw Kai was a womanizing, chain smoking, whiskey drinking gangster who was shot in the back of the neck three times and left for dead in the middle of the road.
When I met him, thirty years later, he was still chain smoking and drinking whiskey.
But the immensity of his vast love was undeniable. And when he gave me my first real initiation, the entire universe burst into life for me.
Look at what your teacher is inside, not at the outside package. Flowing robes, big wealthy Ashrams and throngs of followers may not represent your best choice.
Put aside your social conditioning –your expectations, judgments and beliefs about should and shouldn’t.
Let your heart be your guide.